Embrace Your Curiosity

Jun 21, 2024

Do you ever have realizations that you hardly know anything?


I'm asking because as I grow in maturity, knowledge and wisdom, I'm realizing more and more how much that applies to me. I have so much to learn!


And importantly, this realization is both humbling and makes me enthusiastic to keep learning on a daily basis. While I've always been a learner and a curious person, as I grow in awareness about myself and life, I can see how much there is to learn.


Learning never ends.


One of the topics in which I'm an on-going learner is communication. Years ago as a sophomore at Wellesley College, I was deciding on my major. My father advised me to choose English.  His advice was straight-forward: learn to speak one language perfectly.  This was relevant because I grew up in six countries speaking four languages.


But afer graduating from college and in the early years of my career I didn't give much thought to communication. This is probably because my communication was "good enough" that it allowed me to be "effective enough."


However, as I rose in the executive ranks, I realized how essential communication is.


I became more curious and committed to being a more effective communicator. When I was a Vice-President in the investment business, an Executive Coach I hired recommended Crucial Conversations Tools, a book by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzer.


I learned about being persuasive and productive in my conversations.


Then I discovered Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life, by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD. I attended some workshops with skilled facilitators to learn this powerful approach in more depth. The investment in learning transformed my communication style.  It had a positive impact on my relationships. It helped me seek harmony with my counter part regardless how difficult or high the stakes were.


I learned to be more empathic and compassionate in my communication.


Then five years ago, a professional colleague recommended the book, Never Split the Difference - Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss. This book blew my mind and made me realize - even though I had been conscious of learning to be more effective in my communication for over ten years - there were counter-intuitive communication skills  of which I hadn't been aware.


 After so many years of learning about communication, there is so much more to learn!


Every time it seems like I might get close to the finish line, the finish line gets moved.


And that's wonderful, because I love to keep learning.


There is so much to learn.


It never ends!



Stephanie Hessler is a High Performance Coach. She helps high-achieving corporate leaders and business owners who want to rapidly advance their careers and create a vision others want to follow, but have hit a roadblock. Therefore, Stephanie guides her clients through a transformational coaching journey called the BLISS Accelerator to turn their goals and dreams into reality. Previously, she worked in the investment business, including on Wall Street, for sixteen years. She earned her MBA at The Wharton School and her BA at Wellesley College. 

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